How Mantras Reduce the Stress of Parenting

Kimberley Moran is a parent, a former teacher, and an editor at We Are Teachers and We Are Parents. As a teacher, she found herself being asked question after question about parenting.

During conferences, she spent more time discussing parenting than student work. Even teachers would ask her what to tell the parents of their students. The more questions she was asked, the more she developed easy ways to talk about some of the most important aspects of parenthood.

In order to help parents remember what to remember, she coined the term Parent Mantras. “This will be your mantra,” she would say to them. “Begin at the end.”

After reading lots of the books in the hack learning series, she realized she wanted to write one about the kids in those classrooms and the parents they went home to at night. The result was her new book, Hacking Parenthood: 10 Mantras You Can Use Daily to Reduce the Stress of Parenting.

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What Moran says about Parent Mantras

In this book, I’ve gathered 10 mantras for cutting out the stuff that doesn’t really make you a better parent, instead focusing on what you need to do in each moment to move your parenting strategy forward.

Each mantra shows you how to assess a situation and your child in it and then make a plan or use your intuition to help you and your child grow.

Mantras were created thousands of years ago by people in ancient India who understood that sound is a pathway to reaching enlightenment.

Mantras became medicinal sound formulas to calm the self.

I hope to help you use mantras to drown out the noise of the world a bit like sticking your fingers in your ears and shouting “La la la la, I can’t hear you!” These mantras should also help you hone in on what matters when things seem out of control.

When we decide on a mantra to guide our parenting, the simple act of repetition takes us beyond our everyday boundaries and allows for our mantra to seep into who we are as a parent.

We create an intention behind our actions. We strengthen an extremely powerful tool, our voice. When we commit to the act of using mantras in every aspect of our parenting, we are staying in touch with our deepest desire about who we want our children to be.

It allows us to release, relax and surrender to our parenting intention.

I really do use every one of these mantras to help me in my parenting. I love them because they aren’t judgmental. I get to decide what I’m going to do, but my mantras help me focus and be consistent.

This is the key to good parenting I think. If one of these doesn’t work for you, let it go. Being flexible is also a great parenting skill.

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5 Parenting Ideas to Make the School Year a Positive Experience for All

In August of 1978, I was ten years old. My new uniforms, crisp white shirts, and brown loafers sat in the closet waiting to be worn.

I mustai??i??ve checked my bag 500 times to be sure my list documenting the 42 or so books Iai??i??d read over the summer was ready.

My mother had allowed me to buy the new Chocolate Soup Swedish messenger bag Iai??i??d been coveting, a dozen yellow number 2s, and a composition notebook.

I had no idea who my teacher would be; Iai??i??d find out when I arrived at school.

Fast forward to August of 2017, nearly 40 years later.

My kids barely read this summer, so there wasnai??i??t much point in documentation.

They say they like their summer clothes for the first day of school and that their old LL Bean backpacks still seem new. They already know who their teachers will be. The excitement, it seems, is nonexistent.

But, really, for me, there is this pressure. Each school year seems to bring with it a shift in parenting responsibilities and my childrenai??i??s needs.

So this year, Iai??i??ve armed myself with this:

5 ideas to make the new year a positive experience for all of us

1 – Donai??i??t be disappointed

My kids do not do things the way I want them to be done. There Iai??i??ve said it and now, as my therapist has promised, I can let it go.

If I know they will want to do school their way, I will not be disappointed when they donai??i??t come home thrilled that they get to read a book every week and write about it. But that wonai??i??t stop me from hoping theyai??i??ll let me read the books with them.

2 – Buy exactly whatai??i??s on the required supply list

I will not hem and haw this year over every single item on that list, wondering if it will last the year. Remembering that many of the items I purchase will be lost or destroyed. My kids donai??i??t need to have the prettiest, best school supplies on the block. No one will notice. For real.

3 – Make a list of morning tasks

There has never been a morning when my kids have woken up on their own, gotten dressed, brushed their teeth, come down to breakfast, and had an already packed backpack by the door.

This year will be different! I have purchased alarm clocks for both kids and taken the time to make a checklist with them that covers all morning tasks. The list will be in their bedrooms and in the kitchen, mostly so they donai??i??t complain every time I ask them to check the list and they remember itai??i??s still upstairs.
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4- Model what youai??i??d like to see

I am a model of an active learner and an organized person. I remind my kids to go after their curiosities and to think about making lists.

This year, I will not do that stuff for them so that they will start to do it for themselves. I want them to feel the joy of discovering that they can take care of themselves and ask questions to make things more clear.

5 – Have gratitude for life

I will remember to be grateful for the kids I am allowed to raise each day. Through the bickering and hysteria, I want to remember their quirky personalities that made me laugh all summer. Iai??i??m also hoping to take the time to point out the things I see that they might enjoy.

Childhood memories affect us like no other memories. Mine may be of books and reading and shiny loafers, but they are no more or less important than the memories my children will have of different things that they will deem important enough to share with their college roommates and potential life partners.

And letai??i??s not forget our parenthood memories. We have the power to make them feel great or always feel like we missed the mark.

You be you and let them be them.

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